Being on the other end of your spouse’s deployment certainly has its peaks and valleys. One minute you feel on top of the world for changing your own oils, and the next you are feeling emptier than the empty side of your queen bed. The key to making it through a successful deployment is is learning how to squash what I like to call the deployment doldrums. So here are ten positive things you can do instead of feeling sorry for yourself.
1. Go for a run, or engage in some form of cardio activity. Exercise is a proven way of beating depression, but is often overlooked by those of us who love to use the “I have no time” excuse.
2. Volunteer. Doing something for someone less fortunate than yourself is one of the best distractions for your dismay. Even better, look up your local USO to see if they need volunteers, or keep your ears open for opportunities within your spouse’s unit to assist with homecoming activities or be a key volunteer to help another wife who is experiencing a deployment for the first time.
3. Chant a mantra. Come up with your own, or you can borrow mine. When I get stuck in the weeds and start to sweat the small stuff, I tell myself, “I can do this, I can do anything. I’ve done things 1,000 times harder than this.”
4. Pamper yourself. Treat yourself to something you don’t often do, like a mini facial, which is not only calming, but can be very therapeutic if your skin’s been ravaged by stress.
5. Write in a journal. Yes, I know we’re not 12 anymore, so why would we keep a journal or a diary? Don’t underestimate the ability to get your thoughts out of your head and onto a page. If you don’t believe me, try it for 15 minutes. I guarantee mood-lifting will ensue.
6. Cook a gourmet meal. I’ve experienced some major moments of zen simply chopping vegetables to prepare for dinner. Couple that with the task of preparing a challenging meal and you have a source of great pride (and hopefully great taste)!
7. Socialize. Tempted to sit at home and sulk, while watching every episode of Sex & the City on HBO On Demand? Well take a cue from Carrie and her crew and hang out with your girlfriends instead! Or, catch up on phone calls and emails to long-distance college pals.
8. Get outside. There’s no better time than summertime to lift your mood while outdoors. Plant a garden, take your dog to the dog park, take a stroll on the beach, have a long lunch at an outdoor cafe. If the sun’s shining you won’t be able to help but smile.
9. Have an animal instinct. We got our dog six months before my husband deployed in anticipation of me wanting to have some company while he was gone. Visit PetFinder.com to find rescues looking for a good home near you.
10. Musical therapy. Try putting on your favorite CD or playing your iTunes on shuffle. It’s amazing how listening to some of your old favorite songs will always make you feel like dancing!
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